I know, I know this is a bold and unconventional statement, but stay with me for second. Remember when you were a teenager, stealing bikes, being mean to your sisters, lying to your parents...just being a heathen! Where is that person? Those behaviors? They're gone, but you aren't gone. No, the behaviors simply changed, as you gained more wisdom/maturity as we'll call it. Bad behaviors/mannerisms come and go as long as we don't attach ourselves to them. Meaning: Believing that the behavior is you. Of course, you'll argue I was a naive kid my parents punished me, and that behavior was done. Adults get arrested all the time for their behaviors, yet the behaviors or drug use goes on. Why is this? Children don't associate themselves so strongly with a behavior at first, because they are very present, so they feel guilty at that moment then leave the behavior and consequence behind until maybe the next time a situation arises. They don't keep associating themselves and bringing up guilty feelings with future behaviors, like us. I used to remind myself daily within each hour sometimes, that I was a thief, I was no good, I'm an addict etc. etc. You know all the self-demoralization chatter we say to ourselves, not to mention we carry guilt and shame around like a sympathy badge. This mind chatter causes us to believe this is who we are, but read this again, contemplate these behaviors and thoughts. Do you truly believe you are a behavior or bad thought?
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